I was reading a pretty popular magazine while working out on the treadmill ( Needed that to keep going for an hour lol) and i came across an article talking about why according the them 50% of young Christians Black women in the United State of America are still single. I'll try in my best ability to give their reasons and tell if i agree or not with them.
1. The women look for men in Churches.
The magazine states that most of those single young ladies look for men in black churches which is wrong. Well i agree with them on that. I've discussed with some single ladies before and they think that they'll find a godly man in church. They think since he comes to church he might be good for her. Hellooo!! Have you ever heard of people wearing masks to church? Someone can act more godly than the Pastor and be so not what people think he is. Where i come from even witches and wizards come to church every single day if they can, some people will be so active in their church but yet at home will be so wicked you'll look at them twice and be shocked. Plus Ladies 85% of us say they are "Christians" in the US compared to some 40% males and in total 75% in the US claimed to be " Christians". Let's leave that for another day shall we?
2.Young Women wants a wealthy and successful man
That's true, who wouldn't? But listen a black man in his early 20's is still trying to make it through College or make something out of his life and trust me if he is in the world (and most of them are), He is not ready to settle down. Don't be in your 20's and start thinking marriage come on.... I've sat with some Eagles lately, by Eagles i mean people who have been true Christians in a long while and married for a long time and some words from my Pastors and oh boy! I'm not in the hurry to get married. Marriage is a Magnifier like my Pastor will say. You think he is cute when he snores? Wait until you say "I do" and hear him snore every single day for the rest of your life. I don't think it's cute anymore huh? When you had a long day and try to sleep and hear it all night long. And Ladies, Behind every successful man, there is a strong woman. If you are not successful yourself, not strong on your own to take care of yourself financially, emotionally, physically, etc,... don't go out there looking for a man to do that for you. The truth is you won't find him. You need to be complete and happy alone before thinking of adding someone else to the picture. If you want to be complete go to God, He will be your strength, your guide, your love, etc.... and trust me He will be faithful if your faithful to Him and even in our messed up life He will still be faithful because He loves us that much.
3. Women and their Biological clock.
I used to think that i have a biological clock but then i let God come in my life and do some main construction work. If you are on my Facebook you'll think, man she got it going on! Let me tell you that life is not a bed of roses especially if you want to be a true Christian, God will mess up your life. The devil will throw in his obstacles but if you still faithful to God in the middle of your storm and keep on going you'll soar on wings like an Eagle. There is no biological clock, it's in our mind. Stop looking for your husband in every man around you. You'll get hurt. I've learned the hard way. When you are in God, trust me you won't even have the time to think about it but you'll have a blessing of men around you because men will start seeing the Glory of God through you. You don't have to expose any part of your body, which is the Temple of the Holy Spirit, to get a man. That Glory of God will shine upon your life and you will rise and shine and you won't even understand where they are all coming from and why they are coming after you but let me tell you it's because they have seen the Glory of God in you. But then again ladies, be careful because even Satan can see that light upon your life and will try to come in and destroy you.
To close this post i'll say when it comes to relationships, first you need to stop looking because when that right man comes in everything will fall into places without too much effort. I'm not saying it will be easy though but you'll know.Secondly don't be cheap, what i mean by that is don't fall too easily. Don't let the man have his way. Put him to test like a female Eagle does it. By that i don't mean either shoo-sh him away no, but see how far he will go for you. Third, if you want a godly man for your godly self he has to abide by the book of life, The Bible. Don't let him tell you no this is for the old days and things have changed. We as human changed toward God by doing what we please us but God never changed. The God of Abraham, Isaac, and Jacob is still the same. Ladies! Be still and let God perform His works in your life. Let His will be done in our life as it is in Heaven. Father may your will be done now and Forever!
Adios Valverde...
4 years ago
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I love this Gaelle and i love you even more for sharing. I made a decision this year to follow God and i asked him to give me the strength to abide by all his commandments. To be honest, i've never been happier! anyone around me can testify. When you serve God with a true heart, there is just this glow that draws people to you. It's amazing! and you know what else? when you truly serve God, you will not need to sell yourself cheap because you know who you are and whose you are! That's why i like this saying, "When you stand for something, you will not fall for anything." When you stand for/with God, you will not need to go about looking for men everywhere. They will come! the God in you will always shine through and set you apart from everybody else (I know from experience.lol) I also agree with you on working on yourself before jumping into relationships/marriages and all. We jump from relationships to relationships looking for Mr. perfect and most times getting hurt in the process, when all the while we should have taken time off to develop ourselves spiritually, financially, academically, and emotionally. I'm i the only one that gets all fired up and have all these big dreams and goals and then a guy ( who you obviously know is not worth your time) comes along and somehow you kinda, sorta lose focus?
I like your point on females looking for successful and wealthy men, and let me share a quote from my pastor, "be with a man who can keep a commitment because beauty and everything else will fade but it's your commitment to one another that will keep you together" enough said :)
Oh and yes, just because someone comes to church every sunday does not make them true christians. Christianity is just a religion for some people, when it should be a life style. I have met females who i i thought were true believers because they religiously go to church but i got so disappointed when i talked one on one with them to find them making a mockery of church. The same applies to guys, so church is not necessarily a place to look for a husband. In fact, to avoid being distracted from your goal to serve God, we shouldn't even be looking for men in church.
Thanks for a good read girl! keep them coming :-)
Akunna
I meant " be with a man who can keep a COVENANT..." not commitment.
Akunna, This is like a fresh breeze to me. Comments like yous make me want to write more. And i'm asking God to inspire me with writings that will inspired other and nourish people's soul. Thanks again. I love you mama. Muah
This is really inspiring Gaelle. I am still in the process of finding myself in God and so far its been a blessing. so thanks for this. I needed it!
Interesting article. But it's also sad how ladies allow good men who really love them go all in the name of 'TESTING THEM' or at the slightest bit of hard times in their relationship with their good guy. I've been opportuned to speak to some ladies who regret how they handled the hard times in their relationships and eventually allow the good men that they had a relationship with to go. They sometimes wish they could have the opportunity to get it all back. While some were lucky to have another chance to reconcile with their men, some of them weren't so fortunate and have lived with the regret and pain of seeing what was theirs with another woman. To be honest, I feel we follow a lot of what I call relationship manuals from people who are most likely not in relationships or are not even able to handle it's complexities if they're even in one. The key is to simply be yourself and go with the flow and pray for the best. JUST A WORD OF ADVICE. But nice article all the same.
Whaou gaelle u impress me...you are so right and to be franck i never thought of all that bit you inspire me, thouth am a christian i dont know how big is my commitment to God i mean i go to church and all that but i cant say i have a personal relationship with God and dont really know how to get there. I know that i will feel complete and confident having that relationship. Right now am confuse and still looking for my own self who am i and what am looking for specialy when i come to men.
I can say that what you said about finding yourself and beig confortable financially and spiritually before go for mariage is the best thing i ever heard and i agree with you 100%.
Hope to see more post like this one to inspire me and others as well. Thanks girl may the almighty continu to guide you in your thoughts...kiss
Benson...I completely understand where you are coming from. Most people get so caught up in pleasing the opposite sex because they are desperate that they don't let their true self come out. If only all of us can be ourselves and come clean. If the opposite sex likes the way you are then it's a good beginning if not soon or later you'll find ur partner. God didn't created anyone to be alone. Reason why he made Eve for Adam....Thanks for your contribution. Sorry for the late reply :-)
Lil'Robee, i understand what you mean. There is no need to rush when it comes to a relationship. If a man likes you he'll show it and if you pray about it God will surely show the way. Remember being oneself no matter what is the key. I wish you all the best...And don't hesitate to drop me a message for further talk. Love you girl!! Thanks for stopping by and sorry for the late reply....:-)
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